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Love as a Wolf

My recent trip to the Wolf Sanctuary gave me a view into love and the complexities therein. Comparing love to the fear of being in the same cage of wolf, let along interacting with such a complex creature.

Are wolves to be feared? Is love to be feared? Why do so many people in today’s society fear both of these things? I see many people in my reality who are blind to love. People want to love them, yet they push away the love. Or perhaps they want love so much they scare away love.

Let’s take a look at love as if it were a wolf.

Wolf looking at you

One must learn about the wolf before approaching it.

Understand that you are about to approach an extremely powerful creature. Powerful in the sense that it can rip you into shreds. But it can also be a friend and companion. Which do you choose?

Even with a hint of desire to be a friend to the wolf, you can begin to approach it.

You approach with caution. What do you see, what do you sense, smell? Take two steps forward and one step back. Just to see what happens.

That went well. The wolf approached just the same. Seemingly with optimistic caution.

The wolf is near. It’s now in arms reach. What do you do next? Are you able to make the next move?

Hand to back. You’ve successfully pet the wolf. That’s a big step!

But wait, it can bite off your hand. So pet gently.

Let’s be honest, there’s a keeper here at the Wolf Sanctuary who knows the wolf, it’s probably not going to kill you.

But you still don’t know the wolf. What if you scratch the wrong spot? What if you move your hand funny and it runs away.

Enjoy the success you’ve made thus far.

You are well on your way to making friends with the wolf. Still proceed with caution. It will take some time before you can feed the wolf a fatty steak and keep your hand. It’s part of the process. Enjoy the process. Enjoy each step.

Remember this is about love. Whether this is with a romantic partner, a new friend, or a stranger in the world. You have the ability to be successful with love.

Each person will accept love in a different way. You don’t know their history or triggers. Be gentle. Maybe they will be guarded at the sight of love. Two steps forward and one step back.

You can do this.

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Stillness and Reflection to Bring Peace

Stillness and reflection are important parts of the day. Many do not make time for this.

Stillness: make time to slow down from the day’s events. Sit in a comfortable spot and just be. Try and clear the mind like in meditation. Listen to what is happening around you, then release it.

Sun reflecting on the ocean

Reflection: it is important to see the world for what it is. When you are fully immersed in it you cannot reflect upon what happened.

All of this should bring peace to yourself — if one is generally comfortable with self.

However, stillness can feel like chaos. The chaos is a reflection of the internal self.

One can work to be comfortable with self. When this occurs peace is a possible result of stillness.

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Moving Your Energy by Choice

Do you think about how one choice in the moment can set up a choice for the next moment? It is simply about expanding your now into the next moment. We are not talking about planning future states. Planning a future state to have 60 days of pay in the bank, or 30 days of food available to you and your family is very wise however.

We are speaking directly to the moment of now, and the very next moment that happens after now. Life is a series of thoughts strung together. Some are related, some are not. The energy of thought can and usually does move into the next idea.

We are speaking directly about making positive empowering choices now and expanding those into the very next moment. This is for the sake of leading a fulfilling life, a life of joy.

Do you have an idea? No matter the size, use the following steps to ensure quality of the energy moving forward:

  1. Idea
  2. Is it me?
  3. Is it safe?
  4. Is it one of my patterns?
  5. Does it empower me?
    1. Desire for sweets — likely no.
    2. Desire for a beer, shot, (any alcohol) — likely no.
    3. Exercise — likely yes.
    4. Play – positively yes.
  6. How does it make you feel?
    1. Joyful
    2. Frightful
    3. Excitement
    4. Neutral
    5. Annoyed
    6. Tired
  7. Can you pull this energy forward?
    1. How does it serve you?
    2. Is the outcome powerful?
    3. Does it empower you?
    4. If there is a negative feeling/emotion, why? Where does the negativity come from?
      1. You can have a sad emotion that needs to be present in order for something else to happen. Perhaps there is a chain of events that need to occur until the positive presents itself.
      2. Do not spend a lot of time thinking about this, simply know it might happen at some

This can be utilized in micro choices throughout the day, or with meditation of bigger choices in life. When utilized for micro choices throughout the day, you’ll find quick action to be best. Too much thought may lead you astray. This is because when you are new to the process, your mind will be stronger than your heart. We are trying to focus on the heart here. It speaks softly and your brain talks loudly. Your brain will try and convince you to stay the course. What you have been doing is comfortable and should remain. Moving into something new is uncomfortable. Be prepared for blockages when trying something new.

It’s important to realize that small changes will make a difference long term. Do not be discouraged if it doesn’t work out like you expect. This is part of the training.

You will begin to make small wins. With each small win, there may be a set back. Perhaps something doesn’t work out and is very discouraging – almost so that you wish not to continue with the experiment. This is a time to push harder. Allow the situation, be ok with the situation, and work toward the next small win.

Stick with and allow each small win. Those small wins will turn into medium sized wins, and eventually big wins. Do no flounder when a set back is presented. This is a test to see if you really want to change.

Rember, your mind seeks to keep things the same. Your heart quietly loves to grow.

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Gratitude Mantra

I created this as I was reflecting on my life’s journey, purpose and joy. It all started from me. I then continued reflecting upon layers around me. I came to the highest layer of this life and decided that was the place to start. I focused love and gratitude into each layer before descending into the next. Pause, reflection and filling each layer with love is most important here.

Note: “World” is used to encapsulate everything. All things that I can and cannot see. What truly exists out there? How many universes and galaxies are there? Are they continually being created? What have I/we yet to discover? What about dimensions of galaxies? I begin at the highest conceivable level of all and everything, given gratitude and love, then move to the next level. 

I love my world
I love the universe
I love the planet earth
I love all the inhabitants on earth
I love my family

Most of all I love me!

Pause, and feel the strength after each line. Most of all, give significant pause after the last line. Feel love inside your body. Sense your body’s energy. Sometimes it’s warm, sometimes its soft, sometimes I want to cuddle with myself. How does it feel for you?

Remember, the love you have for yourself is the maximum amount of love you have to share with another. Grow self-love stronger each day so that you can love others stronger everyday.